Monday, November 19, 2012

THE BEST GIFT!

 I do not know about you, but I am so surprised that the gift-giving season is here already!  While you are searching for that perfect gift for your loved one that lives in a long-term care facility, I want you to keep in mind that the most important gift we can give to a loved one is a gift that on the surface appears to be a simple one and one you may reject at first, but it is most important gift you can give.  Simply the Gift of You!  Go visit with your loved one and share what is going in your life and give your loved one an 

opportunity to share their lives with you.   
You may say,” yeah, yeah” and dismiss this, but if you would have been with me last week while I was visiting with the resident I have built a relationship with through Betty Brewer’s Angels, …..if you would have been with me…. and seen the tears in the eyes of a woman using a walker who paused in front of us to say how she wished her family or friends wanted to visit with her,  you would not dismiss this Gift of You so easily.

Joel Wrobbel the host of the Journey Through Aging radio show, has asked Betty Brewer’s Angels to share ideas about gift giving and the holidays in general in brief segments during the month of December.  Journey Through Aging is on every Saturday, 8 am to 9 am on radio station WRFD 880 AM.  If you live in an area that does not receive this show you can listen to it live on their web site www.journeythroughaging.org.     While at their site, look around! They have a great web site with an abundance of information. It is one of my favorite web sites!

  If you know of anyone that would be interested in making a difference in someone’s life by volunteering to spend one hour per week establishing a one-on-one relationship with a resident living in a long term care facility, please contact me. 614-309-4677 or bettybrewersangels@wowway.com.   

 

Friday, November 2, 2012

Potato Chips



Something to think about:

”A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey.

When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old man. He was sitting in the park, just staring at some pigeons. The boy sat down next to him and opened his suitcase. He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the old man looked hungry, so he offered him some chips. He gratefully accepted it and smiled at him. 



His smile was so pretty that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered him a root beer. Again, he smiled at him. The boy was delighted! 
They sat there all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word. 

As twilight approached, the boy realized how tired he was and he got up to leave; but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the old man, and gave him a hug. He gave him his biggest smile ever...
When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do today that made you so happy?" 


He replied, "I had lunch with God." But before his mother could respond, he added, "You know what? He's got the most beautiful smile I've ever seen!" 



Meanwhile, the old man, also radiant with joy, returned to his home. His son was stunned by the look of peace on his face and he asked, "dad, what did you do today that made you so happy?" 

" He replied "I ate potato chips in the park with God." 
However, before his son responded, he added, "You know, he's much younger than I expected.

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime! Embrace all equally!”

If you know of anyone that would be interested in making a difference in someone’s life by volunteering to spend one hour per week establishing a one-on-one relationship with a resident living in a long term care facility who has no one else visiting with them, please contact me. 614-309-4677 or bettybrewersangels@wowway.com.   

Monday, June 25, 2012

What is a Friend?


My uncle sent me this video with the following message because it reminded him of the work Betty Brewer’s Angels do:
“We have all at one time or another seen a need and didn’t have the time or didn’t know them or they were not important to us or we just were not interested to do what we knew was needed. The next time that happens remember this turtle and do what you can to help. God gave us a bigger brain than a turtle but do we have a bigger heart?” (just click on the little arrow button to play)




Betty Brewer’s Angels purposefully chose a resident who has little or no visits from friends or family and then establish a friendship with that person by our weekly visits with only them. We are interested in them and their life. 

If you or someone you know would like to share one-hour of your life each week to establish a relationship with a person in a long-term care facility who has no one visiting with them, please contact me.   

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

A Valuable Lesson


view detailsYesterday I had to let my neighbor’s dog outside while they were gone for the day. The only problem, unbeknownst to them, was that due to a  fall,  I injured my leg and was using a cane. Climbing the many stairs to let the dog out was painful and precarious for me. At least, I thought, I could take my garage door opener with me so at I would not have to climb my front porch stairs when I returned to my home.

After navigating all the stairs at my neighbor's house and safely arriving home, wouldn’t you know I had left my garage door opener upstairs at my neighbor’s house.  Sigh.  That meant a painful return trip up all those stairs.

 Then I saw another neighbor across the street about to get into her car. I yelled for her to come over and asked her to go up the stairs for me to retrieve my garage opener. She did not really listen to what I was saying. She was focused and frazzled because, as she explained to me, she was late for a hair dresser appointment.   So I just waved her on. Now this is a very nice woman and I know she would have helped me if  she were not so caught up in the fact she was late for her appointment. She did not even hear what I was asking. This made me wonder about myself.  I am a very schedule-driven person with long to-do lists for each day. How many times a day do I miss an opportunity to help someone?  At the end of the day what is more important? My to-do list or stopping to listen and help others? 

Can you pull yourself away from your To-Do Lists and busy schedules to take one-hour a week to visit with a person in a long-term care facility who has no friends or relatives and really needs you to listen to them?  If you would like more information about becoming a Betty Brewer's Angel volunteer, please contact me. 

Monday, April 16, 2012

A SPECIAL GIFT



Last Easter week and Easter Sunday, Betty Brewer’s Angels delivered Easter presents to the residents of long-term care facilities who they have been visiting this year.  There were Easter baskets with lots of candy, door hangings, pretty decorations for their rooms, cards, etc. For some it was the first Easter basket a resident had ever received, for others it was a time for remembering with their special Betty Brewer’s Angel of past Easter celebrations. But the most important Easter gift was the gift of time each volunteer spent with the resident they visit, letting them know that they were remembered.  Like all of us, every resident has a different life story. but what is different from us is that they all are living this stage of their life in a long-term care facility with no one to visit with them or to remember them on special holidays if it were not for Betty Brewer’s Angel volunteers. So what could have been a sad day for them as they watched other residents spending time with their families was turned around into something to anticipate and to enjoy with their own special Betty Brewer Angel.  

When we train volunteers in long-term care facilities, we are given a LIST, not just one name, but an actual list of people’s names who have no one visiting with them. We meet so many special residents and want to befriend them all, but that is impossible as there is only one of each of us. This is the reason I am so grateful for the people who made the decision to become an Angel and befriend one special residentl. As I write this the faces of people I have met who are awaiting there own special Angel flash before my eyes.  If you have one hour a week that you can spare, would you consider being a Betty Brewer Angel? There are many residents in long-term care facilities who are waiting for you this very day.  If you have not read last week’s blog, The Butterfly Effect, please do now and know you make a difference!

Betty Brewer’s Angel volunteers choose a facility that is nearby their home or work and an hour that is convenient for them to visit.  I personally visit with my special resident after church on Sunday afternoons but the schedule is flexible and completely the volunteer’s choice. Do you have an extra hour a week to brighten the day of someone who has no one?  If you are interested in becoming a Betty Brewer’s Angel or just want to know more about us, please contact me at bettybrewersangels@wowway.com or 614-309-4677.   

Monday, April 9, 2012

THE BUTTERFLY EFFECT & BETTY BREWER'S ANGELS

 In 1963 The Bbutterfly Effect was presented as a hypothesis by Edward Lorenz to the New York Academy of Science. Basically it describes the phenomenon whereby a small change at one place in a complex system can have large effects elsewhere, e.g., a butterfly flapping its wings in one place might, by moving molecules of air in motion thereby moving more molecules of air, might change the weather in a place far away from where the butterfly first flapped its wings. 


Edward Lorenz was pretty much laughed out of that conference! However, approximately thirty years later physics professors from colleges and universities worldwide came to the conclusion that the Butterfly effect was “authentic, accurate, and viable.”  The Butterfly Effect soon was elevated to the status of scientific “law” and is known at “The Law of Sensitive Dependence Upon Initial Conditions.” 
 
Now what does this have to do with you? Simply this: Everything you do matters. What you chose to do, good or bad, has an effect on people and events that you are not even aware you are affecting.  People and events in the future can be affected by your present actions.  

The Butterfly Effect in relation to Betty Brewer’s Angels: In 2004 Betty Brewer volunteered in Faith Lutheran Church’s office.  I was the Office Manager in the office and met Betty. Impressed with her love of the Lord coupled with her remarkable common sense and love of life, I set out to become friends with Betty, and our friendship grew.

Fast forward to 2008 to when Betty was awaiting heart surgery. Betty was temporarily residing in what was then named Lutheran Village (now Summit Trace).  While there she noticed that there were long-term residents who had no visitors. Betty noted she was blessed to have family and friends visiting her and that she was shocked to find out there were so many people who did not. Betty declared to others and to me that when she recovered from her heart surgery she was coming back to Lutheran Village to befriend those people who had no visitors.  Betty died two days after she told me of her plan.

In my grief I kept asking God “Why? Why take Betty when she had a plan to do good work here on earth?”  The answer came in loud and clear “You can take her place.” And then louder “Think Bigger!” WOW! That was the beginning of Betty Brewer’s Angels.

We are a totally volunteer organization that does just what Betty planned to do but on a larger scale. We do not limit our visits to one facility, but to all long-term care facilities in Central Ohio, with the purpose of establishing a one-on-one relationship with the very people Betty wanted to reach. People who, for whatever reason, i.e. outliving their friends/.family or simply that their family living in another state, have no visitors.   Each volunteer chooses one resident in one facility and becomes their friend.

If Betty had chosen not to volunteer in the church office we would never have met. If she had not expressed compassion for people around her, Betty Brewer’s Angels may never have been.

Betty was the Butterfly that flapped her wings and now people she never knew are volunteering bringing joy to the lives of long-term care residents she never met. The Butterfly Effect!!!!

 If you know of anyone that would be interested in making a difference (and flapping their butterfly wings) by spending one hour per week visiting with someone in a long term care facility, please contact me. 614-309-4677 or bettybrewersangels@wowway.com  



Monday, March 5, 2012

MY FRIEND

A real friend is one who walks in when everyone else walks out.                                                                                                                                                                              

Finally my computer is back in operation!  What I noticed the most about not having a computer was that I became a little lonely in the evening because I could not do a quick “check-in” with friends via the Internet. 

This started me thinking how it must feel to be in a long-term care facility without family and friends dropping in for a visit.  The facilities have plenty of activities and yes, there are residents and staff there, BUT there is not anyone interested in you only.  Betty Brewer’s Angels’ mission is to reduce the sense of isolation of residents in long-term care facilities who have no one to visit them by establishing a one-on-one relationship. That one-one-one is what sets Betty Brewer’s Angels apart from other visiting charities.

Betty Brewer’s Angels do not do what I call “hit and miss” visiting. Rather we purposefully chose a resident who has little or no visits from friends or family and then establish a friendship with that person by our weekly visits with only them. We are interested in them and their life.  I always know I have made a connection with a resident when they introduce me to others in the facility as “my friend.” Sweet words!

If you or someone you know would like to share one-hour of your life each week to establish a relationship with a person in a long-term care facility who has no one visiting with them, please contact me.